The mediator you choose will drastically affect your mediation experience. In addition to training, great reviews, and expertise, here are a few traits to look for in a mediator. Compassionate Listeners. Great mediators are skilled in making all sides feel heard. Mediators understand that there are many equally valid interpretations of. a given event or circumstance, and are able to listen without judgment. Quick Thinkers. Because emotions are high, mediations can escalate ou